Grief is a difficult process, and that's understating things. We're seldom prepared for it, and there's no telling how it's going to affect us over time. There's a reason grief counseling is a multimillion-dollar industry because it's actually extremely rare to lose someone close to you and not go through some level of grief.
Join us today, for 10 important facts about the grieving process.
Grief Is Completely Normal
Grief is a completely normal and natural reaction to a traumatic or significant loss. When you’ve lost a loved one, you are going to experience grief.
That said, just because grief is normal doesn’t mean it’s not difficult.
Grief Shouldn’t Be Diminished Based On Circumstances
Loss is extremely personal, and it can seem like the most terrible, unfair thing that could have happened. No matter the circumstances of your loss, your grief is valid and difficult.
Nothing takes away from your right to feel grief and loss.
The Only Way To Overcome Grief Is Through It
Losing a loved one is one of life’s most difficult experiences, and there’s no easy way out of it. We may try to suppress or avoid pain, but grief doesn’t work that way. It’s best to accept the grief and experience it, in order to recover.
Grief Is Often Connected To The Relationship
Each relationship we have is different, and so the grief process may be different depending on the person we lose. For example, someone might grieve the loss of a parent differently than the loss of a close friend. Even two people who both experience the loss of a spouse might grieve differently, depending on their unique circumstances.
Grief Requires Work
Grief takes much more energy to work through than many may expect. It takes a physical and emotional toll, and it’s often counterproductive when someone tells you to "be strong". This is why we often feel fatigued after a loss, or uninterested in people or socializing.
Grief Takes Time
People often wonder how long grief will last. The truth is that it will be finished when it’s finished. The first few months may be especially difficult, as well as the following year and holidays. Grief often takes longer than people expect, and you should take all the time you need.
You Can’t Predict Grief
Grief is unpredictable, and you may find yourself experiencing emotions that aren’t the typical sadness or anger. You might not feel like yourself and, although it can be difficult, it’s common to the grieving process.
More Losses Can Follow The Initial One
While the death of your loved one is significant and difficult enough, you may also experience secondary losses. This could mean financial security, a home, or even a role. It could also mean the loss of hopes, like retiring with your person. It's important to preempt these losses so you are ready.
Grief Doesn’t "Just End"
Grief comes and goes. One day, you could feel good and, the next, you could find yourself distraught. Although it can be discouraging, it’s important to know that this is normal. Grief almost always takes longer than expected and knowing that can help you work toward acceptance and healing.
You Shouldn't Do It Alone
While grief is a very personal experience, it doesn’t mean you need to cope with it alone. Talk to those you love and trust. It’s a good idea to find support groups with people who have had similar experiences, if possible.
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